I don't know. Maybe if we were all still kids. I poured so much unconditional love into that entire friend group for so many years, but I really ever only received as much as was convenient - as much as was left over. I think even if I wanted to reconnect, and they wanted to reconnect, the situation with you and them, and you and keith, is too humiliating - too degrading for me to come crawling back willing to pretend I don't understand exactly how little I mattered to them. That's partially why I'm trying so hard to find a place you're willing to open for me to hold in your life. You're the only one that I know, that I believe that I know, that did genuinely love me as an equal at some point. You haven't for a long time, but you did once upon a time choose me even when it wasn't convenient or easy. None of them ever did, and it only got worse as time went on. I think even if any of them wanted to open their lives to me again, they would only let me in as a distant visitor that never put them at risk of having to think about how they treated me, or about how loudly they declared their loyalty to keith as an actual member of the group - how acting with fairness or respect to me was never even a consideration worth pausing to process.
Your continued loyalty to and preference for keith is an insult that would make reconnection with any of them impossibly unlikely. keith also fucked Lauren while Kevin was trying to marry her, and that's why Kevin and keith have almost never been in the same room for more than a decade now. It changed the shape of everyone's friendship in a way you didn't get to see because you weren't around to know what it was like before that happened.
Your question about whether I would be willing to consider a shape of life in which you got to keep your relationship with keith was an insanely degrading ask. But you making a genuinely good faith to come to therapy with me in order for both of us to find a healthy way to move on with our lives - with or without each other - is the only situation in which I would be willing to consider nearly any condition you required.
I wish you would ask me to describe the pain and indignity and genuine torment your relationship with and preference for that disgusting worm of a human being has caused and continues to cause me. That would show me that you do genuinely care beyond the dismissiveness of "I know it's a shitty situation and I said I was sorry".
Daphyne is a good friend. Corbin is a good friend. Even Zuleyma has shown me so much genuine love, even at a heavy emotional cost to herself. I always knew with the old friend group that my love for them would far outlast theirs for me, we even talked about it almost 20 years ago. I don't think I'll ever be willing to accept a disposable friendship again, even if it means a deeply lonely and isolated life. Because I know that the people who love me now will always love me. I know that they will be the ones who will cross the world at any cost to make sure I have a coin to give the psychopomp when it's my time to return to that river.
Also until you've finished paying off the truck keith isn't allowed to ride in it or touch it in any way. Not to load cargo, not to grab something from the cabin, nothing. Unless you hit him with it or something, that would be fine. I bought that vehicle for my family. To keep the love of my life and our brood and our home safe and to carry us everywhere we were dreaming of going. You could lie to me, I'd probably never know. But it would be a vile insult to add to my existing injuries and I don't believe that you would do that intentionally.
BUT LIKE I SAID BLAH BLAH BLAH boo hoo life is so hard and unfair somebody call the wahmbulance
Despite the intimate nature of all that rambling up there I'm really not in a bad mood. Some things in life are tough, but it really is okay to acknowledge that and talk about that without having to blow up our break down to do so. And I know you have a distorted vision of who I am because you absolutely refuse to do the work of finding out, but I'm really not the thing you're afraid of.
I'm trying to get my head in the game for cleaning and packing. But mmmmeeeeerrrrrrpppp I don't wanna
But I do.
But I don't.
Why do you think she's bored? Want to try to teach her a new trick or command or something? I can help! Without being there obviously.
Are you bored? Ramping up? Winding down? I'm still available if you want to chat about work or life or yapology in general
Or we can put a show on and just like do laundry or something while watching
Merp