Nothing new until this morning. I was going to reach out about this. I read through some of the things your wrote in the shared doc and it was really upsetting. It feels like there’s nothing I can do here. I understand that you have a lot of resentment towards me and most of it is justified but I do not need to continue to take it from you. I know I don’t “have to read it” but it’s in a shared doc that you reference for financial updates, I’m bound to look at it and I think you know that. It feels like a work around to still make sure I hear these things without the consequences that come with you directly sending them to me. It’s disheartening to realize now that you’re were feeling this way so close to us having hung out. I’ve told you time and time again that if we are going to try to be friends you can’t continue to send me these things and time and time AGAIN you find some way to STILL do it. I feel so dumb and like my boundaries have no weight to them cause I tell you hey you can’t send me that or I will stop talking you and you are like okay cool and DO IT AGAIN and then I have this talk and I’m still here.
I KNOW that those feelings aren’t going to just go away but none of the options that work for me work for you. I’ve apologized and tried to walk away and you won’t let me so here we are! I’m tired, I want to live my life, I want to move on. At what point do I get to just do that?
I know you want to move on too. I know you feel like you can’t.
I know that you feel that there’s things I could do that would make it easier for you to get past it that I’m not willing to do. I’m sorry I’m choosing to be selfish.
I don’t want to keep talking about it. I don’t want to argue and I really don’t want to talk about Keith. I debated just not saying anything. I’ve been talking myself into not being upset about what you said cause that’s something I can definitely do but I thought you deserved some honestly.
I want to make it clear I’m not trying to walk out of your life and that’s not what this message is. If I do take a little space I want you to know why, not as a consequence but for transparency.
I say all this despite my fear that it will ruin your day and cause you to spiral. I want to express how I’m feeling even if you feel like it’s not valid and you expressing yourself in the spreadsheet is justified/ deserved.
I want to end on a lighthearted note in betrayal to my annoyance because I don’t like confrontation, because I hate arguing and I ESPECIALLY hate arguing with you and because I’m dreading the possibly long email that you will write in response echoing the sentiments that you wrote in the doc.
I hope you have a great day, and I mean that. weathers nice!